Design and Usage ....

"Everything is designed. Few things are designed well" - Brian Reed

Designing is an ubiquitous activity. Yet in so many instances it almost seems like design is disconnected from usage. In the midst of following fads - the entire purpose of design gets lost !!

We went to a restaurant .... and it seemed like everything that could be wrong ... was wrong !!!!

1. The play area for children was in a dark dim corner ... ?? Could not see the children ... much less the playground artifacts ... what kind of child safe zone is this ?

2. The entire restaurant was mostly dark ... in this dim dark world -- there were pathways ... which had unexpected dips in levels with no visual demarcation .... plus the natural stones had plenty of unevenness to cause stubbing !! An invitation to people and children to fall on their face !!!

3. The low seating was atrocious ... I don't have back pain and yet I found it difficult to keep leaning forward at that angle to reach for my food !!!

4. Candle light dinner ..... aaah .... supposedly romantic .... it seems the designer forgot that candle light dinner does not mean ... we be unable to see the food or the menu !!! :) IMHO candle lit dinner should be just enough that it hides flaws and creates a glow instead .. with adequate dim lighting to ensure you can see what you eat and most importantly the expression on the other person's face ... after all this is why it is supposed to be romantic right ? More often than not this generally this means a smaller table ... most restaurants never get this balance right ... !!!!

And I can go on and on ...For a restaurant of that kind .. food is just one of the things that it is rated on !!! :) The entire design seemed to ignore the people who would come to the restaurant and be served !! :)

If design is intelligence made visible .. I definitely saw no sign of it .... And this is a hep & happening place here ... sometimes I wonder .... :)

We had an architect who was interested in designing our bathroom lighting with expensive lighting and extensive work details .... the point forgotten - the said design would make the bathroom dimly lit !!!

This same person refused to keep the kitchen platform at a comfort level for me ... said the height that was chosen was standard. But this so-called-standard would give me a pain the neck while cutting vegetables and a gas cylinder could not fit underneath it either !!!! What kind of standard was this ? Standards are there for a reason ... but if it does not help towards an easy usage of the object ...... what is the point ...  ??

Have you come across a website where what the company is about is buried under so much flash .... that it takes forever to get to the core [ we would rather go elsewhere thank you ]. I would think that if under 5 seconds you don't know what the website is about ... most people would just skip ....

Aesthetics are very important no doubt .. but while designing these aesthetics .... it is important to remember ...designing should always be connected to the purpose of its usage... otherwise after the novelty is gone... it may well find  itself out of favor too ....

After all - "Good design keeps the user happy, the manufacturer in the black and the aesthete unoffended" -  Raymond Loewy

Grief - Short note

 
"There is many a word that causes a tear in the eye .. but the saddest of them all is the simplest word 'goodbye'".

 
Lately I feel I am getting lots of bad news ... first from a friend involved in an accident that wiped half his family away.

 
Next from an acquaintance who lost her hubby ... 1 month after their wedding ... just after they came back from their honeymoon. Another teen lost his dad .... and ....... I don't think I need to add more.

 
In all these instances .. there seems to be a common thread. Insensitivity of the people who come to offer condolences.

 
  • One person asks details about the accident
  • Another person asks - How do you feel about your dad ? Do you miss him ? [ Er .. what kind of question is this ? Really ??? ]
  • The girl is being consoled with ... "It is ok .. you are young .. you can always marry again " !
  • I was told - "It is ok .. you have another sister "

 I do understand that to a large extent many people feel awkward and helpless knowing that no words can assuage the pain and one can really do nothing .... so I sincerely believe my friend was trying to tell me .. I still had another sibling to hold on to .... and did not mean to sound as if one sister was the same as another .... like interchangeable objects ....

 
But on the whole .. while people have different ways of handling grief .. I would think some things are common when one approaches them -

 
  • If you don't know what to say .. it is better to just say .. you don't know what to say ...

  • Not many people like to rehash the loss ..... get the clues from the demeanor of the person ... and keep quiet when you get this edict

  • Last and definitely not the least ... every person is unique so the anguish the departure of that person brings is also unique .... the age, the situation in life .... does not matter ... only how much that person was loved.
So whether it is a still-born child, a 5 month old baby, a 6 yr old boy, a teen girl, a father , a grandmother etc ... the age has nothing to do with acute sense of distress ... and nor can one person be replaced with another !!!!

 
At most for a person who is old you might be able to face the bereavement with a degree of equanimity because you believe they have lived a long and [ hopefully ] happy life. But that may not really dull the pain ...

 
So when one visits a person in sorrow it is time to take a step back and make a conscious decision to try and be more perceptive.

Like my friend told me during my difficult time ..... "Letting go has never been easy but holding on can be just as difficult. Yet strength is (sometimes) measured not by holding on but by letting go."

Simple pleasures ... Raindrops and Roses .....

- Watch sunrise near the sea where there is clarity and the full sun can be seen ... the change from darkness to light is amazing .....

- Watch mists roll down a hill ... these are especially more beautiful when there are tea estates on the hill ....

- Feel snow flakes falling on your upturned face

- Sit for hours in the waters of a natural hot geyser .... :)

- Camp out in a place where you can gaze at the sky with a zillion stars from a spot far away from any light ...

- See the brilliant fall colors ....

- Smell the earth after the first rain ....

- Drive a bike when it is raining ...

- Walk in the rain .... :)

- Take deep breaths in the fresh crisp mountain air ...

- See a complete bow of a rainbow across a field or road ......

- Watch the full moon rise ...

- Smell the intoxicating aroma of sandalwood / jasmine / roses ....

- Sit on the steps of a train and watch the passing scenery [ be careful the door does not close on you !!! ]

- Sit in a quiet spot in a temple and listen to the temple bells ... and feel peace stealing on you ....

- Drive/Walk on a lonely road with flame of the forest [ Gulmohar ] trees in full bloom on either side ...

- Relax with your feet in a cold water stream ....

- Sit under a jacaranda tree in full bloom ... be enveloped in the heady scent of those lovely violet flowers ...

- Drive on a desert road ... with blue skies .. and a handy deep blue lake on one side .... :) ... all those rich browns and blues are beautiful .....

- See the majestic northern lights .... in silent contemplation ....

- Scuba dive in turquoise waters with brilliant corals and bright tropical fishes in various hues ....

- Sky dive .. through a cold cloud ... :)

- Experience the quietness when parachuting ...

- Have hot chocolate in front of a fire [ no other lights in the room ]

and and and .............. these are a few of my favourite things ..... :)

What are you like ??

"Know Thyself" is considered an universal tenet and a basic step towards spiritual growth. One of the baby steps towards this knowledge I think is questioning one's likes ( and dislikes ).

This may be considered as questioning one's beliefs but I believe it is much more fundamental than that. We all have prejudices ... and they are not easily visible to us.
Unless an effort is made to understand them I believe one cannot really understand oneself.

So lets say we take something as trivial as "Why do I like like mangoes ?" You may like them -

- obviously due to the taste
- simply a health habit wrt to eating seasonal fruits
- or perhaps may be in some part - it evokes the feeling     that you felt when you were at your grandparents house !!


So what ?? What is the big deal one may wonder ... but the questioning does not have to stop there.

Say one progresses to wonder why there is a dislike of maths [ or accounts/finance .....:) ].

May be it is not just because you thought you did not get a good teacher / guide ... it may also have been because being in a family of mathematical geniuses [ or something similar in terms of achievers ] you were more scared of failure .... and hence it was easier blaming someone or something ....

It may not inspire you to stop everything and rush off to become a CA now :) .... but your awareness may help you next time you come across maths or a balance sheet and may allow you to take your time to understand it ... or may be you will help someone who is in the same situation that you were in .... :) Perhaps you will manage your finances better ! :)

Take football or cricket .... there is a whole world of physics to be learnt when one sees the spin of the ball changing the course of the trajectory ....
[ I personally think that subjects like physics and maths should be taught more in terms of application ... they are more fun that way ... especially probability theory :) ..... but .. that is another topic altogether ]

Not everything you learn about yourself has to translate itself into an actionable item ... it is sometimes just enough to be aware ..... and ofcourse quite a few insights would be trivial ...

But to think about it .... when you know that you have bought that LIC policy not because you are convinced it is good for your financial goals but because everybody in your group got it [ and claim it is the best thing for you ! :) ] ; you are more likely to understand why your son insists on a Ben 10 watch (because everyone in his group has it) !!! You will more likely be able to empathize with his crumbling under the effects of peer pressure.

When you realize your choice of subjects in college were to conform to what your parents wanted - may be you will go easy on your children and allow them to choose what they want to do.

You may start to wonder on any number of things ....

- Why do you light a diya everyday ? And yet consider reading the Gita in old age only ? :)
- Why doesn't [ or does ] it disturb you when a 5yr old girl child is expected to understand and give in ... whereas her brother who is 10 yr old and throws a tantrum - is indulged .... ?
- Why is bharatnatyam [ or opera ] beautiful to you ?

Questioning your likes may make you realize that some of them are either irrelevant or the emotion [fear/sadness/compulsion] that made you choose is no longer applicable.
Gradually ... you may find yourself thinking on more deeper issues - questioning your faith, beliefs, religious teachings, gender bias, patriotism, caste leanings, work ethics etc.

The more you know why you are doing / liking / disliking something the more aware you become of your persona and .... that ... is the whole point of .... "Know thyself" !
When you know what motivates you , what moves you , what interests you .. you are able to move beyond that knowledge to making choices that more beneficial for yourself , your family, friends and work.

It is said that a 1000 mile journey begins with a step ... so ....may be it is time to ponder on ...
"Why do I like the color _______ ? " :)